• Indulge in a "quickie"
  If you’re in a relationship, start with some non-pressured, non-sexual, intimacy outside of the bedroom. Studies show that even a 20-second hug raises oxytocin levels, "the cuddle hormone," in both men and women. So get handsy with each other and indulge “little quickies” that don't necessarily lead to sex, but build anticipation and sexual self-esteem.  Give it a whirl even if you're not in the mood. Sex is its own aphrodisiac; It raises testosterone levels and gets those nerve endings tingling.
  
• Hit the gym
  This is especially true if you’re a single guy. Studies have shown that guys who work out and lift weights are more likely to have success with women and more sexual partners than guys who don't– and that's not because women are more into brawn than brains, but because working out boosts testosterone as well as self-esteem: both essential parts of getting back in the game with gusto.
  
• Stop getting graphic with your graphics
  Again, this is mainly applicable to men, regardless of their relationship state. Porn is easy and accessible, kind of like junk food: it may satisfy a short-term craving, but it doesn't provide any real nutrition. Over the long term it leaves you deadened and disconnected, and guys who spend too much time retreating into a world of digital fantasy are all the more likely to develop sexual and social issues when dealing with real women. So log off the laptop and log in to life.
  
• Go on 10 first dates
  Maybe your standards are too high, or perhaps they’ve become too low during your dry spell. In either case, the latest computer simulations of dating scenarios (yes there are actually computer simulations of dating and hooking up) reveal that you need to go on 10 first dates to set an "aspiration" level: a realistic view of who's out there for you and who's going to be interested in you. Going on a bunch of first dates without the expectation of a second also allows you to have fun and take the pressure off.  And while a hook-up may be just what the night has in store, always remember to practice safe sex with somebody new.
  
• Be prepared for malfunction
  Regardless of whether you’re a man or a woman, be prepared for a possible mechanical malfunction.  After a dry spell, it may take a little while to get back in the saddle so to speak. Sex isn't like riding a bike, because bikes aren't living beings with fears, pressures, and anxieties. It may be harder to relax and let go. If everything doesn't go as you planned "under covers" don't panic or develop a complex or retreat back into your slump.

So don’t let a dry spell take you out of the game. Step up to the plate, take a deep breath and swing for the stars. Striking out is a thing of the past.

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