How to manifest the love of your life

You also need to begin to dismantle some of the negative beliefs about yourself that you may have unknowingly collected over the years. For example, deep down inside, do you believe you are loveable? If you are reading this, then I am certain you are loveable. Why? Because loveable people always want more love in their lives. But if you believe you are not loveable, you must start to challenge that belief. I know many very attractive, successful single people who have some very negative, limiting beliefs when it comes to finding their soulmate. Their list usually goes something like this:

• I’m too old.
• I’m too fat.
• I’m too damaged.
• I have too much baggage.
• I’m not successful enough.
• I’m too successful.
• All the good ones are taken.
• Nobody I am interested in would be interested in me.

These are just knee-jerk excuses that keep us stuck. There is plenty of evidence that love is available to everyone regardless of age, weight or income or any of the other factors we believe limit us. Regardless of our personal histories in relationships, we can choose to adopt the belief that everything we’ve been through has been but preparation for finding our true love. 

Feelingization: Releasing old beliefs
Begin by taking a moment to remember your worst romantic encounters — the people who really weren’t kind and loving; the ones you’d like to forget; the ones who hurt you the most, who betrayed your trust, who caused your heart to shut down.

Now imagine that these past lovers are all standing in front of you. Allow yourself to feel the pain they caused you in the past. 

Take a moment to ask yourself what you must have believed about yourself to tolerate this kind of behavior. Did you believe that you didn’t deserve any better? That you had no right to ask for more? That you weren’t lovable?

Now, take a deep breath and ask yourself, “Am I willing to release these old beliefs?” Notice what your answer is, and if you are really ready to let them go, imagine gathering all the old, painful feelings and beliefs and limitations and mentally projecting them onto all of your old lovers, who are still standing before you. Just imagine dumping all those old painful feelings back on to those ex-lovers. Take a moment to notice how that feels.

Now imagine that you have an aerosol can — like a spray paint can — in your hand. See yourself pointing it at those ex-lovers. In a moment, you’re going to press the trigger and spray the can, and as you do, all those people and all those painful memories are going to become globbed together inside a big latex bubble. 

Take a moment and relish the feeling of spraying that paint, congealing every one of those negative memories, experiences, and beliefs together into a single bubble. They are now separate from you, removed from you. Take a deep breath and enjoy the freedom of that.

Now imagine that in your left hand you are holding a large, sharp needle. Perhaps a smile comes across your face just imagining what I’m about to ask you to do. That’s right, when you are ready, take the needle and puncture that latex bubble, watching it explode and disappear into thin air. 

These people are now gone from your consciousness ... and with them the painful feelings, beliefs and experiences of the past. Feel what it feels like to no longer carry the burden of your past with you. Feel the freedom, the new possibilities, the relief.

Take a deep breath and notice what arises when I ask you this question:

What would you have to believe about yourself in order to magnetize your soulmate into your life?

Would you have to believe and know that you are lovable? That you are deserving? That you are a fabulous catch?

Believe and know deep in your heart that The One is out there for you, that you deserve to have your desires fulfilled, that you deserve to give and receive love.

And if you don’t quite believe it today, see if you can, in this moment, believe that The One is on their way and that your knowingness is growing daily.

Take this time to think about all the things you have to offer, and in case you are forgetting what those are, I’d like to remind you: It’s the love you give and share, the kindness and warmth you exude — not to mention all your other talents.

You were born to be loved, cherished, and adored.

You were born to be loved, cherished, and adored.

You were born to be loved, cherished, and adored.

Repeat this to yourself seven times, allowing it to penetrate deeply into your heart.

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